You are experiencing Domestic Violence, DV, if a person, a MAN or a WOMAN, who you are in a relationship with does one or more of the following things to you:
Physical Abuse: when they harm you physically, like beating, slapping, kicking, choking, stabbing, burning or using weapons on you.
Sexual Abuse: when the person harms you sexually, like raping you or other sexual acts against your will that infringe on your dignity.
Emotional Abuse: when the person intentionally says things that hurt and harm you, emotionally, like saying something they know will hurt your feelings, shouting at you, insulting you, calling you bad things. This is to make you feel bad about yourself and also includes threatening you so you behave the way s/he wants you to. This could be threatening to kill you if you divorce him/her, or saying you will never see your child again.
Psychological Abuse: when the person intentionally harms you, psychologically, by saying and doing things to impact your mental and psychological state of mind. It makes you feel you have no dignity, you are worthless and you doubt your own judgement and sanity.
Verbal Abuse: when the person harms you by saying hurtful things to you, calling you terrible names, insulting you, shouting at you as the main way of communication.
Economic Abuse: when the person uses money to control you or your behaviour, denies you finances in the home, takes your earnings, controls everything around money, makes you perform acts to get your money or the household money and places conditions around the household finances, like if you don’t do this, then the children won’t get food, or if you don’t stop seeing those friends you will get nothing for the house.
Intimidation: when a person threatens to hurt or harm you, your children, family, friends if you do not do what they want you to do. Psychological, emotional and verbal abuse can also be intimidation.
Harassment: when the person watches you or follows you all the time, sends you messages and emails, leaves you unwanted notes and messages. This even if you have asked them to stop doing such things. It is another controlling behaviour and also speaks to psychological and emotional abuse.
Stalking: when the person follows you around, all the time, and you do not want them to.
Damage to Property: when the person damages your belongings, on purpose as a way to hurt you. Also includes breaking or destroying things at the place where you stay.